Human Nature

I have noticed in myself, and sadly, in my daughters, that we are rather hard on ourselves. An ugly side of human nature! I tend to reflect on the "I should have's" (e.g. I should have done this when the girls were younger...You may have noticed this on earlier posts.) My daughter's reflect on "I wish I's. (e.g. I wish I got a better grade or I wish I had bigger feet.)

The trick is making these moments positive learning experiences.

My daughters learn that if they try hard and always put forth their best efforts, they can accomlish anything and if they look hard enough, they can find something to wear. (Shoes are the hardest, and you can forget gloves!)

I learn that I have not failed as a mother. My girls reassure me often that I am a good mother and that they love me dearly. I know this because they tell me so, but I know this mostly by the choices they make and they way they behave. A bad mother would not have such awesome daughters!!!